Teens are at an awkward age, they are not yet adults but, they are no longer children. However, although they may be older, teenagers still lack the maturity to make certain decisions on their own. In knowing this, we, as parents, need to firmly guide them into the world of adult hood. Part of this guidance is setting boundaries for your teen to let them know what they are able to do and, what they are not. Here are just a few guidelines to help you set boundaries for your own teen.
First of all, you need to be sure that you are establishing firm rules and, with those rules, firm consequences for breaking them. You need to make sure that the boundaries that you set for your teen are clear. One of the best ways to achieve this would be to write a contract between you and your teen outlining the rules and, the consequences for breaking each one. This helps your teen feel that they are more of an adult.
Next, you need to be sure that you hold the line. Teens are famous for testing their boundaries to see what they can and, what they cannot get away with. Due to this, you as a parent need to be sure that you are standing your ground. If your teen breaks a rule, then you must hold them accountable. This will help your teen get used to the no exception rule often found in life.
Take the time to practice positive reinforcement. Remember, your teen is going through a hard stage of their life. Be sure that you are telling them that you love them often. They will also help your teen become more responsible while staying in the confines of their boundaries.
Finally, be sure that you are leading by example. When you are parenting a teenager, it is almost like managing employees at work. When you take the time to demonstrate positive behavior your teenager follows that. When you set the boundaries for your teen you should show them examples of how they apply to the adult world.
Teenagers are at an awkward age they are no longer children but, they are not quite adults. Be sure that you are setting firm boundaries for your teen and, they will be well on their way to being a positive adult.